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Peter McQuaid's avatar

This is another (extremely useful) variation on the old Twelve Step adage “feelings aren’t facts.” Realizing your feelings don’t have to control you is enormously freeing in my experience, and a cornerstone of maturity.

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

🙏

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Mitch Teplitsky's avatar

I feel happy to have read read this (but I won't fixate on that!:)

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

🤓

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Deborah Sikora's avatar

Excellent column!!

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

Thanks, Deborah. I'm glad you enjoyed 🙏

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Jeanne's avatar

I needed this “ sermon” today!!

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

Glad that it found you 😉🙏

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Saundra Friedman's avatar

I found this too. be an extraordinarily helpful article. Thank you. Saundra

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MTA's avatar

I really needed to hear these words, thank you so much!

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

Hope they're helpful!

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Tugba Madaus's avatar

Yes! 100% agree, thank you for sharing this.

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Michael TenBrink's avatar

💯‼️

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

🙌

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Mary SOUTH's avatar

Great advice, as usual!

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Dr. Samantha Boardman's avatar

Thank you, Mary — I hope you found this to be helpful.

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PowerCorrupts's avatar

u:"Take a moment and think about your right big toe.

Focus on it. Straighten it. Wiggle it.

Now ask: how does it feel?"

me:"Take a moment and think about your penis tip["corona"].

Straighten it. Focus on it. Wiggling in and out of a vagina....

Now ask: is the purpose of its evolutionary origins... to pump my ejaculate in or is its purpose to pump the last male's ejaculate out? Is this a MASSIVE SOURCE OF THE JOY OF SABATOGE ?"

me:"Take a moment and think about THE JOY OF SABATOGE of MAGA... aka "OWN THE LIBS"... what's the evolutionary origins of all that JOY OF SABATOGE of MAGA... ?🫣🤯🤔🕵️

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Serena's avatar

So very true … so many psychosomatic conditions aggravate because clients / patients gets so fixated on their bodily feelings of pain and considering it to be some form of catastrophe and in the process increasing it and spreading it every moment. Thank you for sharing this insight.

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Beth Terranova's avatar

I was born in 1958 at 26 weeks, with what was then a 10% survival chance. I became totally blind by my first birthday. I have always had extreme anxiety and fear of many specific things and of life generally, once to the point of almost complete dissociation. My research has shown that brain structures are changed due to prematurity and functions are therefore altered also. It is my wish that psychology and other medical and mental health professions would increase study of people with disabilities and include us in academic and clinical publications and practice regimens.

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Allan Mishra, MD's avatar

Excellent vital advice. Too often we are paralyzed by contemplation.

Get over yourself and get on with life.

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