I’m intrigued by the power of physically crumpling up the anger paper and throwing it away. Emotions are a mixture of physical sensations and thoughts. I wonder whether the physical act (crumple and throw) is able to access the physical aspect of emotional experience. It sounds like the power ideally contained within religious rituals.
Yoga and breathing seem clearly addressed to the physical. But those activities are known to have reliable physiological effects—so I think of them differently than “crumple and throw away.”
I think, I'm thinking along the same lines. I wonder whether burning the letters would have a greater or lesser effect than scrunching and scrumping the paper. Where is the balance between symbolic and physical? Is it the ritual or the balled fists that does the heavy lifting?
Very true. The wolf that is fed depends on your social environment too. Toxic work and friendship groups significantly affect how we view the world based on what emotions are socially reinforced.
Most welcome wisdom, Dr. Boardman. Thank you for the cool reminder of how to handle hot situations.I would not have thought of emotions and Self fulfilling prophesies in those instances.
As a therapist, I would routinely encourage safe expression of negative feelings (including anger) as I have always believed we need to give room for all of our feelings. They are messengers, afterall, and we can’t always get the message unless we allow ourselves to feel our feelings. However, with that said, I would also follow up with calming exercises, emphasizing this as the healing part of the process.
I’m intrigued by the power of physically crumpling up the anger paper and throwing it away. Emotions are a mixture of physical sensations and thoughts. I wonder whether the physical act (crumple and throw) is able to access the physical aspect of emotional experience. It sounds like the power ideally contained within religious rituals.
Yoga and breathing seem clearly addressed to the physical. But those activities are known to have reliable physiological effects—so I think of them differently than “crumple and throw away.”
I think, I'm thinking along the same lines. I wonder whether burning the letters would have a greater or lesser effect than scrunching and scrumping the paper. Where is the balance between symbolic and physical? Is it the ritual or the balled fists that does the heavy lifting?
Very true. The wolf that is fed depends on your social environment too. Toxic work and friendship groups significantly affect how we view the world based on what emotions are socially reinforced.
Brilliant insights into anger and how to manage it.
Thanks!
Most welcome wisdom, Dr. Boardman. Thank you for the cool reminder of how to handle hot situations.I would not have thought of emotions and Self fulfilling prophesies in those instances.
I hope this strategy helps!
Horatio could think and decide.
Impetuous violent hamlet could react
Never once does hamlet takes horatios advice to season your distemper w cool reason, tho hamlet says he admires Horacio b c he is not passions slave
Helpful article, Grazie
Oh you miss the pt of sleep, get sleep, deep sleep, we te sleep deprived enormously and on edge, “natures balm”
As a therapist, I would routinely encourage safe expression of negative feelings (including anger) as I have always believed we need to give room for all of our feelings. They are messengers, afterall, and we can’t always get the message unless we allow ourselves to feel our feelings. However, with that said, I would also follow up with calming exercises, emphasizing this as the healing part of the process.
Exactly!
Do your parents still have that pillow? :)