Physicians who can admit when they are wrong, and those who can admit when they do not know something (and need to go look it up) are the best doctors. It takes knowledge, experience, and humility to ask for forgiveness.
This is also true in the public realm. I’ve never understood why businesses and politicians and the like always to deflect and cover up. If they would just acknowledge the mistake/bad decision, they would find forgiveness and regaining of trust so much easier. The idea that owning up to and accepting responsibility shows weakness is behind much of our dis-ease today.
Bill Wilson knew what he was doing when he developed the 12 steps. Step 9 - "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” All about ego deflation. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps . . .
"People often say that humans have always eaten animals, as if this is a justification for continuing the practice. According to this logic, we should not try to prevent people from murdering other people, since this has also been done since the earliest of times." ~ Isaac Bashevis Singer
Jan 10·edited Jan 10Liked by Dr. Samantha Boardman
What is a good motivation for using those three words “I was wrong”? Because I have seen them used as a trick with bad intentions. And a second question how do you know when the words are actually sincere?
Physicians who can admit when they are wrong, and those who can admit when they do not know something (and need to go look it up) are the best doctors. It takes knowledge, experience, and humility to ask for forgiveness.
exactly!
This is also true in the public realm. I’ve never understood why businesses and politicians and the like always to deflect and cover up. If they would just acknowledge the mistake/bad decision, they would find forgiveness and regaining of trust so much easier. The idea that owning up to and accepting responsibility shows weakness is behind much of our dis-ease today.
I agree wholeheartedly!
Bill Wilson knew what he was doing when he developed the 12 steps. Step 9 - "Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.” All about ego deflation. Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps . . .
"People often say that humans have always eaten animals, as if this is a justification for continuing the practice. According to this logic, we should not try to prevent people from murdering other people, since this has also been done since the earliest of times." ~ Isaac Bashevis Singer
Great perspective and mindset on "being wrong". Shows that you have a learner's attitude which is fantastic. More learning = more joy.
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These are one of the highlights of my week. Thank you, Samantha!
So glad to hear that :)
What is a good motivation for using those three words “I was wrong”? Because I have seen them used as a trick with bad intentions. And a second question how do you know when the words are actually sincere?
Great question. Saying "I was wrong" is not enough - the key is taking responsibility and taking actions to make things right.
Check out this article for more: https://drsamanthaboardman.substack.com/p/how-to-apologize-and-why-it-matters