I’ve always thought the same thing and even had a draft in my ideas for future newsletter pieces but because I didn’t have any clear findings I never wrote it! Now I feel so vindicated seeing it from you 😭
I wonder…does saying “I love you” outside intimate settings come naturally? Is it not destined to feel somewhat insincere? Is it an import from USA and television? Is there a certain cultural pressure to say it among some social groups ? But it can seem too serious outside of intimate settings and that accounts for dropping the I. The “acceptable“ abbreviations were very funny, here is another: NEFIAF, which comes from the New Yorker! I’ll leave you to work it out.
I can't possibly agree more. There's another shortcut my family sometimes makes: "love to all." It has the same feeling to me-- a lack of feeling of ownership and true affection.
You are absolutely right. We should all take ownership of what we say, or else just not say it! I'm putting the "I" back in "I love you" and eliminate its abbreviated form. So what if it's cringe.
This warmed my heart, Samantha, words of wisdom, thank you for this- particularly this holiday season!
Thank you!
This is a great column and so true. Too many people don't take the time to communicate properly. You should consider adding emojis to the list of nos!
GGBCI
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I’ve always thought the same thing and even had a draft in my ideas for future newsletter pieces but because I didn’t have any clear findings I never wrote it! Now I feel so vindicated seeing it from you 😭
I hope to see yours soon!
Right up there is “love ya!” which takes the sincerity level down even further! Thank you for articulating what I have always thought and felt!
I wonder…does saying “I love you” outside intimate settings come naturally? Is it not destined to feel somewhat insincere? Is it an import from USA and television? Is there a certain cultural pressure to say it among some social groups ? But it can seem too serious outside of intimate settings and that accounts for dropping the I. The “acceptable“ abbreviations were very funny, here is another: NEFIAF, which comes from the New Yorker! I’ll leave you to work it out.
I can't possibly agree more. There's another shortcut my family sometimes makes: "love to all." It has the same feeling to me-- a lack of feeling of ownership and true affection.
You are absolutely right. We should all take ownership of what we say, or else just not say it! I'm putting the "I" back in "I love you" and eliminate its abbreviated form. So what if it's cringe.