This all seems really sound… and also, there’s another side to the Elmo thing, which is that hearing other people say “I’m not ok” reduces stigma and helps people feel less alone. Both can be true… and in fact I’m not sure the Elmo event was an example of venting so much as poking a hole in the everything-is-awesome social media vibe, which can feel oppressively positive to folks who are struggling. Just my thoughts. I love your work!
I so appreciate your thoughts and totally agree with your perspective about both being true. The everything-is-awesome vibe also takes a toll. I definitely should have mentioned that. Thank you for pointing it out.
Good one. EVERYONE does it at some level. Didn't realize to what degree it is harmful. Growing up with a father who complained constantly we didn't learn any real filters. Only through working in my career did I develop some muscle around this. Personal relationships seems to be harder of course. LOVE the ideas of what to do to move away from the 'complaining' circles.
This all seems really sound… and also, there’s another side to the Elmo thing, which is that hearing other people say “I’m not ok” reduces stigma and helps people feel less alone. Both can be true… and in fact I’m not sure the Elmo event was an example of venting so much as poking a hole in the everything-is-awesome social media vibe, which can feel oppressively positive to folks who are struggling. Just my thoughts. I love your work!
Hi Maryann,
I so appreciate your thoughts and totally agree with your perspective about both being true. The everything-is-awesome vibe also takes a toll. I definitely should have mentioned that. Thank you for pointing it out.
As a recovering chronic complainer, this is really helpful! Taking a walk is my go-to, especially at work.
Taking a walk is always a good idea! I hope you find the rest of the tips to be helpful!
Good one. EVERYONE does it at some level. Didn't realize to what degree it is harmful. Growing up with a father who complained constantly we didn't learn any real filters. Only through working in my career did I develop some muscle around this. Personal relationships seems to be harder of course. LOVE the ideas of what to do to move away from the 'complaining' circles.
Thanks for your note, Christina - I'm glad you enjoy the tips and hope they are useful to you moving forward. :)
Great reminder! It's good to vent, but that venting needs action. Thank you for sharing. I just subscribed.
Glad to have you here!